This novel was the June selection of the International Fiction Book Group of New Orleans.
The book club members and I felt sorry for Kate of North London. Even though she is a physician, she doesn't lead the life that she would if she lived in the US. She has no maid, no nanny, and her husband, a local newspaper columnist, doesn't value her contributions to the household expenses and does nothing to help with the child rearing and housework.
Poor Kate is frazzled. She works 10 hour days (with an assigned caseload of 2000 patients) and comes home to a messy house. She doesn't have meaningful conversations with adults, because her husband is always angry, she has no time for her friends, and her husband has alienated the friends they used to have together. Plus, one child is digustingly in favor of the dad and the other child is acting out, in order to get some attention.
So, she has a brief affair. None of us in the group are in favor of affairs, but we kind of understand why she did it.
And she hopes that this failing doesn't mark her as a bad person. She tells her husband that she doesn't want to be married to him anymore via a cell call from the parking lot where she met her lover. "If you choose to conduct yours on a mobile phone in a Leeds carpark, then you cannot really claim that it is unrepresentative, in the same way that Lee Harvey Oswald couldn't really claim that shooting presidents wasn't like him at all. Sometimes, we have to be judged by our one-offs."
Basically, she is a good person who has gotten fed up with her life and is probably close to a breakdown.
However, David is jolted and decides to change from an angry, judgemental person to a good person, but he goes too much to the other side. He gets a guru and still continues to pay little attention to Kate.
This novel led a to great discussion about the medical systems here in the US versus the ones in Europe. All of us believe that change is needed, but not the system that is in the UK right now. Kate gets mean to some of her more challenging patients, and we hope that the proposed system being advocated by the current President doesn't lead to all doctors behaving like this.
All of us also admired Hornby's gift of getting a woman's voice right. This passage struck a strong chord with me. In Chapter 12, Kate muses about her current life, "Getting married and having a family is like emigrating. I used to live in the same country as my brother. I used to share his values and his tastes and his attitudes and then I moved away. And even though I didn't mean to do, I started to speak with a different accent, and think differently, and even though I remembered my native land fondly, all traces of it had gone from me...the new world isn't all it was cracked up to be, and the people there are much saner and wiser than the people who live in my adopted nation."
I had similar feelings when I was briefly married, so I really admire Hornby's gift to articulate this ambivalence in Kate.
This novel is a great snapshot of life in London in the 21st century of a middle class family who undergoes a crisis. It's not all dreary, and it has hilarious moments in it.

























